1. “If you truly loved yourself, you could never hurt another.”
The first step in truly finding love is recognizing you need to love yourself. When you do that, you create a strong foundation for a lasting bond with someone and open yourself to the possibility of being fully present for them. When you truly love yourself, you see the reflection of that love within someone else. This is because we’re all connected; spiritually, we’re all one.
2. “Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.”
The idea that something or someone outside of yourself will give you the peace and love you’ve been seeking is not exactly correct. According to eastern philosophy, when you do that you set yourself up for eventual disappointment. This is because everything is fleeting; emotional happiness comes and goes like the wind. But real happiness comes from a state of being. That is, it flows naturally from within. You don’t need to add anything to it…it’s already there. Noticing that completeness within, you can truly offer something in a relationship.
3. “Love the whole world as a mother loves her only child.”
It’s not just one person or a family that deserves our love; the whole world does. Part of the problem we have in the world today is the concept of “Us four and no more.” People think that only their family is worth their time and effort. But imagine what would happen if we viewed the entire world as our family? Suddenly, we start to expand that circle of love, and we feel an obligation to help others. If everyone had that ideal, the world would be a very different place.
4. “Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care, for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill.”
It’s really easy to get in a mood and project that onto other people…especially those we love. Saying negative or harmful things to others can seriously damage our relationship with them, and hurt our ability to create a strong bond.
5. “Hatred does not cease through more hatred at any time. Hatred ceases through love. This is an unalterable law.”
If you ever find yourself in a situation where someone is saying something hurtful or damaging, remember that there’s always an option in how we react. Choosing to come from a place of love rather than anger can not only save a relationship, but also help that person understand there is a better way to go about things. Not only that, but reacting with anger only gives more fuel to the fire.
6. “Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate that which they already have.”
One of the most common things I see in relationships is one or both of the partners are looking around to see if the grass is greener on the other side. There’s a constant subconscious desire to see if they can get something better.